۞ eLiSa ۞’s Blog

Feel good
    when somebody Miss u. Feel better when somebody Loves u. But feel best when
    somebody never forgets u.

   
    A friend is sweet when its new….but it is sweeter when
    its TRUE! But u know what? Its sweetest when
    its you.

    Flowers need sunshine, violets
    need dew, all angels
   
    in heaven know
    I need u. years may fly, tears may dry, but my friendship with u will never
    die.

    One day u will ask me: What is more important to you,
    me or your life? I will say: my life… You will walk away from me without
    knowing that U R MY LIFE!!!

   
    A friend gives hope when life is low, a friend is a
    place when you have nowhere to go, a friend is honest, a friend is true. A
    friend is precious a friend is u.

       People live People die People Laugh People Cry Some
    give up Some will try Some say hi Some say bye Others may forget YOU but
    never will I.

If I were to be anything
    in this world…. I’d be ur tears!!!… So, I can be conceived in ur heart, born
    in ur eyes, live on ur cheeks & die on ur lips!!!!!

If u r a chocolate ur the
    sweetest, if u r a Teddy Bear u r the most huggable, If u are a Star u r the
    Brightest, and since u r my “FRIEND” u r the “BEST”!!!!!!!!! 

A special friend is rare
    indeed,it beems to be special breed,yes,perfect friends r very few,so lucky
    I m for having you.

 They say it takes a minute 2 fine a special
    person, an hour 2 appreciate them, a day 2 love them, but then an entire
    life 2 forget them.

    Time might lead me to nowhere and faith might break
    into pieces but I will always be THANKFUL that once in my life’s journey we
    became FRIENDS!

    It takes half our life to find true friends  & half of
    it keeping them.I am lucky to have spent less than half my life finding you
    & wish to spend the rest keeping you.

   
    In my life I learned how… 2 love 2 smile 2 be happy 2
    be strong 2 work hard 2 be honest 2 be faithful 2 forgive but I couldn’t
    learn how.. 2 stop rembering u.

   
    I have seen angels in the sky… I have seen snowfall in
    july… I have seen things u only imAgine to see… But I haven’t seen anything sweeter than u.

   
    There r many stars but the moon is u, there are many
    friends but the best is u,, To forget me that’s up to u,,, To forget u I
    will never ever do.

    U may be out of my sight, but not out of my heart, U
    may be out of my reach but not out of my  mind.I may mean nothing to u but u
    will always be special to me!!

   
 How can u tell the rain not 2 fall when clouds exist?
    How can u tell the leaves not 2 fall when wind exist? How can u tell me not
    to fall in friendship when u exist.

    Knowing a friend like u has made me happy in a million
    ways And if Ever I Have to Let you go………..I would Find a million reasons to
    make u stay!!!!

   
    If I m in hell & u in heaven, I always look up & be
    proud of u. but if I were In heaven & u in hell, I beg God 2 send me down
    coz heaven wont be heaven without u.

 
   Life is 4 u, death is 4 me, being happy is 4 u, being
    sad is 4 me, being together is 4 u, being lonely is 4 me, everything 4 u but
    u r 4 me.

   
    If I could pull down the rainbow I would write ur name
    with it & put it back in the sky to let everybody know how colourful my life
    is with a friend like u!!

   
    Never say ur happy when ur sad… never say ur fine when
    ur not ok… never say u feel good when u feel bad… and never say ur alone when I m still alive.

   
    Sometimes my mind asked why? I miss u, Why? I care 4
    u, Why? I remember u then my heart answered its simply b’coz you are a sweet
    friend!!

Have you ever found yourself in a
relationship that was less than you expected? Or maybe you know of a
friend or family member has become involved with someone who did not
treat them appropriately and may have even been abusive. This is an all
too common situation that can happen when searching for that right
person. Many times these individuals do not show their true colors
until later on in the relationship when intimacy
has been established, thus making them harder to leave. Unfortunately,
I have known of friends and family members who never intended to get
involved with someone of that nature, yet it can happen to anyone,
especially if one is not careful. Fortunately, there are warning signs,
which can signal that this individual is not healthy and good for you.
As you search for that special person, keep this list handy. 

Signs and Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship

· He/She is JEALOUS of your CLOSE friends or even BESTFRIEND, family members and all other men/women.
· Moody, unpredictable. Moods are extreme or change quickly.
· Selfish. Cares more about his/her needs and wants than yours. (Only concerned with “I”, instead of “we”).
· After the initial first or second date, doesn’t want to take you out again, just wants to stay in and watch movies
· He/she starts planning your future right away.
· He/she always wants your undivided attention.
· He/she must always be in charge.
· He/she always has to win.
· He/she always asks where you went and whom you saw.
· He/she can’t take criticism and always justifies his/her actions.
· Only calls you when he/she is drunk (a booty call) or doesn’t ask you out ahead of time.
· Never has money, expects you to pay for everything.
· Has a bad or violent temper (especially when he/she doesn’t get his or her way).
· Isolates you from friends and family.
· Brings you down by criticizing you or putting you down (verbal abuse).
· Blames you for his/her problems or things that aren’t your fault. Blames you for everything that goes wrong in his/her life.
· Too needy or dependent upon you.
·
Too demanding or unrealistic expectations. Expects you to be his/her
“Slave, Maid or Mother/Father-figure”. May even expect so much of you
that you are unable to take good care of yourself.
· Is
Manipulative/controlling. Tries to influence you to do things you don’t
feel comfortable doing like missing work or breaking the law.
· He/she often says you don’t know what you are talking about.
· He/she makes you feel like you are not good enough.
· He/She withdraws his/her love or approval as punishment.
· Doesn’t care about your feelings or makes you feel bad for having feelings.
· Is secretive about his/her past.
· Has had multiple failed relationships.
· Cannot keep a job.
· Flirts with other men/woman when you are with her/him.
· Cheats on you or insists upon having or hiding relationships with other men/women from you.
· Lets you know up front that he/or she is not interested in marrying you, but wants a sexual relationship anyway.
· Brings out the worst in you.
· Not trust worthy. Takes/steals from you/ uses you. Takes more than he/she gives back.
· Asks you for money, credit cards, loans or other financial assistance too early on in the relationship.
· Pushes you, holds you down or hits you (physically abusive).
· Influences you to compromise core goals, morals or values.
· Won’t talk to you about the relationship or whatever you may want to discuss, always avoids serious conversations.
· Judge-mental of your life and struggles, although has his/her own share of problems.
· Emotionally distant or goes to someone else to get emotional support. Avoids closeness instead of connecting (intimacy).
· Doesn’t follow through with promises. Breaks them all of the time.
· Always angry for something you did or didn’t do.
· You find yourself apologizing to others for them or making excuses for them.
· You give them chance after chance.
· You end up paying for their sins or forgetfulness.
· You resent them or nag them.
· Is unable to admit they have weaknesses. They believe they are perfect instead of admitting their faults.
· Is defensive instead of open to feedback.
· Is self-righteous vs. humble.
· Only apologize, but never change their behavior.
· Avoids working on their problems instead of dealing with them
· Demands trust instead of earning it.
· Blames others instead of taking responsibility for their lives.
· Lies instead of telling the truth.
· Is stagnant instead of growing.
· Stays in parent/child roles instead of treating you like and equal.
· Gossips instead of keeping secrets.
· Is unstable over time instead of consistent.
· Flatters you instead of confronting you.
· Condemns you instead of forgiving you.
· He threatens you with harm or destroys your property.
· You feel like you are always walking on “egg shells” when he/she is around.

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

· Communication is open and spontaneous (including listening).
· Rules/boundaries are clear and explicit, yet allows flexibility.
· Individuality, freedom and personal identity is enhanced.
· Each enjoys doing things for self, as well as for the other.
· Play, humor, and having fun together is commonplace.
· Each does not attempt to “fix” or control the other.
· Acceptance of self and other (for real selves).
· Assertiveness: feelings and needs are expressed.
· Humility: able to let go of the need to “be right”.
· Self confidence and security in own worth.
· Conflict is faced directly and resolved.
· Openness to constructive feedback.
· Each is trustful of the other.
· Balance of giving and receiving.
· Negotiations are fair and democratic.
· Tolerance: forgiveness of self and other.
· Mistakes are accepted and learned from.
· Willingness to take risks and be vulnerable.
· Other meaningful relationships and interests exist.
· Each can enjoy being alone and privacy is respected.
· Personal growth, change and exploration is encouraged.
· Continuity and consistency is present in the commitment.
· Balance of oneness (closeness) and separation from each other.
· Responsibility for own behaviors and happiness (not blaming other).

Don’t say you’re not important,
It simply isn’t true,
The fact that you were born,
Is proof, God has a plan for you.
The path may seem unclear right now,
But one day you will see,
That all that came before,
Was truly meant to be.
God wrote the book that is your life,
That’s all you need to know.
Each day that you are living,
Was written long ago.
God only writes best sellers,
So be proud of who you are…

I don’t need a lot of things,
I can get by with nothing
Of all the blessings life can bring,
I’ve always needed something
But i’ve got all i want

When it comes to loving you
You’re my only reason,
You’re my only truth

            I need you like water

Like breath, like rain
I need you like mercy
From heaven’s gate

There’s a freedom in your arms
That carries me through
I need you

               You’re the hope that moves me
To courage again
You’re the love that rescues me
When the cold winds rage
And it’s so amazing
’cause that’s just how you are
And i can’t turn back now
’cause you’ve brought me too far

A BeAuTiFuL StOrY…

a girl asked a boy, "do U think im pretty?"

he answered "NO"

she asked, "do U want to be with me forever?"

he said "NO"

she asked, "do U like me?"

the BoY saiD "NO"

she then asked, " if I were to leave you, would you cry?"

and again, he replied "NO"

she had heard enough..as she walked away, tears streaming down her face…the boy caught her and said,

"you are not pretty, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL"

"i dont want to be with you, I NEED TO BE WITH YOU"

"i dont like you, I LOVE YOU"

"and the moment you leave, i will not cry, I WILL DIE"

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a prince was cursed by a witch that he could speak only 1 word per year. but if he doesn’t he could save the words for the next year.

one day, he saw a pretty princess and fell inlove…

he waited for 10 years to say, "darling, i love you, i would like to marry yOu!"

and guess what the princess replied: "Pardon?"

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

once there was a girl and a boy who love each other very much, but the b0y decided to live mysteriously…

he sacrificed his love to the girl, but the girl still hope that someday the boy will come back…

after many years of waiting, the girl finally lost hope and let go of her feelings…

after 12 years the girl got married to s0me0ne…

on the day of her wedding , the girl was crying while walking d0wn the aisle and facing the altar because the priest who will officiate the wedmass is the boy whom she loved very much and waited over a long time….!!!   =’C

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one night a guy visited his gf…

it was her birthday…

the boy baked a cake for her with a candle at the center…

he lit the candle and said, "make a wish"…

suddenly, the girl closed her eyes and tears started running d0wn…

when she opened her eyes, the guy asked her, "what d0 y0u wished for?"

and she replied…

" F R E E D 0 M…

freedom from the guy that i never loved even from the start…"  =’c

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a baby boy was b0rn and given a pet d0g…the boy grew up a hands0me man with the d0g as his BESTFRIEND. the man got married and had a family, still, the d0g lives with them…

one day the man went into the field to work…his wife asked him where is their baby, the man said; i left him sleeping together with the d0g…the wife g0t mad and hurried h0me quickly…

when she arrived, the d0g was in the do0r with blo0d in his mouth…without second thought he stabbed the d0g to death, until she finally saw the baby sleeping very soundly with a dead snake beside him… :c 

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a couple was celebrating their 1st anniversary…the man gave d w0man a dead r0se with a n0te attached t0 it. the w0man felt insulted and slapped the man.

–>> SAD PART was the card says: "this is me without you!!!"

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there is a s0n wh0 really hated his one-eyed m0ther…everytime their classmates g0 t0 their h0use, he w0uld tell his m0m t0 hide…

the beggar left a letter that says, "my s0n, i know y0u’ve hated me of being a one-eyed m0m but when you were 1 year old y0u had an accident and i gave you my 0ne eye to y0u…for y0u t0 see my l0ve…."

It seems that no matter how much we love someone, and how deeply we are committed, keeping the sizzle alive in a relationship takes a little work. Here are ten ways you can help ignite the flame that was there when you first got together.

1. Don’t take your relationship for granted. Everyone is guilty of this. Time passes, we assume our partner will always be with us. We have gotten used to the things they do for us that in the beginning seemed special. Every so often it is a good idea to remind yourself of the good things this person has brought into your life. Appreciation for your partner strengthens the bond between you and a strong bond naturally leads to intimacy.
2. Spend time together doing something you both enjoy. This is always a good idea as it builds stronger bonds which promote intimacy. This may seem obvious but sometimes we get so busy, we forget to do the basic things that make a relationship strong. Along with this one comes communication. Communicating your feelings and desires to your partner is very important.
3. Set the mood. Dim the lights, light candles, have soft, seductive music playing in the background. Share a romantic dinner. Light a fire and curl up together. Flirt. Do different things to make the atmosphere conducive to romance.
4. Lingerie. New lingerie for him or her can add a little spice. Once a week, make the effort to look your best and put on something seductive. Your partner will appreciate the effort.
5. Full body massages. One week he gets a full body massage, the next week she does. You will look forward to that night.
6. Fantasies. Fantasizing is normal. If there is a fantasy that you have that involves your partner, tell him/her. Women generally have a harder time doing this then men do, but ladies, most men are excited by the idea that you fantasize about them.
7. Play games. You can turn any game into one that will lead to intimacy. Make a wager at the start of the game and each of you state what you want if you win. Nothing is out of bounds as long as the two of you agree.
8. Role Playing. Although you may feel a little silly at first, this can be quite exciting. Have him dress up like a fireman. Have her wear the French maid’s outfit. Whatever you can think of.
9. Light Bondage. No I’m not talking about whips and chains, however, padded handcuffs, a blindfold, or simply tying your hands together with pantyhose can add a new dimension to your love life. Letting your partner have complete control, or you having complete control over them can be exciting.
10. Write a steamy story. Write a story with you and your partner as the main characters. Let your imagination go. Read your story to your partner.

Most things require some effort on your part to be successful. Often we sit back and wait for our partner to do the work, justifying it by thinking we’ve already done more than our fair share.. It is important to remember that investing a little effort will often result in a big payoff which will make the both of you happy.